living by accident

It’s one of those things that’s still beyond me. Regardless of how many times I’ve done it myself, it still just blows my mind when one of my friends does it. There’s nothing I love more than hearing someone say, “Yeah, we’ve been dating on-and-off for a while.” I’m sorry to say, but that’s not dating. That’s really just sad. No offense. But let me try to figure this out the best I can so you can hopefully learn something from my mistakes. I remember my on-and-off moments. One a long time ago, and one just recently. Both for two very different reasons, but we’ll just run them in order I guess. […]

Today is December 15th, which means that this little website is officially celebrating it’s one year anniversary today. Being that it’s the end of the year, both for this site and for 2008 almost, I thought I’d take a minute to sit back and reminisce about everything I’ve learned through this time. A lot has changed, both for me personally and those around me. Often times for the better, but none of us were without our share of hard times this year too. Sometimes you just have to take the good with the bad, because in retrospect, they will all shape you in one way or another. […]

Okay, so let me just preempt this writing by saying that I am in no way a Bible scholar. I’m just not as up on the Word as I should be, so I may be way off base here, but just hear me out. Comment your opinion, but remember that I’m asking questions because I genuinely want to know, so don’t be a jerk about it! Okay? Okay…let’s talk. […]

I was skimming through some stuff today and saw something that my friend Ty had just written. Something beautiful and profound, something we can all relate to, something we can all find wisdom in. While I did NOT write this (I’m not that good), I did think it was worth sharing with all of you. This is what Ty had to say: […]

From the sound of things, I need to take my own advice sometimes. To backtrack, my friend Meagan emailed me the other day looking for some boy advice. Well, not so much about boys as it was about her and how we all have a role that we play in the relationships we’re in. So, I did what I always do: I gave her honest advice. I told her my thoughts and opinions based on my own history of trial and error. […]

As I sat, listening and enjoying the conversation between my friends, friends whose time is limited because of the distance between us, I couldn’t help but feel overwhelmed. Here I was, in an instant loving everything about the moment, in another instant, being struck with sadness that months can pass before I see these friends again. As kids, time was on our side. As adults, time becomes more of a commodity, but we still have our dedication and love. And as the night began to wind down, we all began to talk about the distance between us. […]

Tonight, over some really fattening food, I had a long conversation with my friend Dejuan about love. This year saw a lot of falling out of love for a lot of people around me. People I hold very dear to my heart, some who are family, others who are regarded as family went through the trials of a relationships end. Either through divorce or through a relationship that never made it that far. Regardless of what it was, it was all around me. All of the negative aspects of what love isn’t shone like a headlight. It was unavoidable and, to be honest, I’m starting to think it might be why I was so determined to not date this year. […]

This first part is a bit of a tangent, but it plays into the main topic here which is the modern relevance of a historical figure. One that I respect and admire. A man whose wisdom transcends a half-century to still inspire today. To show us that we cannot escape our history, because it will inevitably repeat itself. But first, my tangent: […]

So I’ve never really been good with patience. I think I learned a lot during my hiatus from the dating scene over the past several months, but that also taught me there are different kinds of patience. Having patience like that is easy when you just stop paying attention. But what about having patience for things you don’t really want to wait for? How do you learn patience when you really aren’t sure what you’re being patient for? […]

I’ve had a lot of time to think during the past week or so. Some things good, others bad, a lot of it annoying, but things that I really needed to sit down and ponder while I had a minute to do so. About friends and family, relationships, religion, work, school, you name it… […]